What to expect from counselling

How can Counselling help me?

We all experience challenging times in our lives that can leave us feeling confused, stressed and isolated. Personal Counselling is a way for you to talk about issues which are causing you concern. Sometimes, you can rely on the support of friends and family to get you through, but at other times, you may benefit from extra help. Counselling offers you the opportunity to talk about how you feel and to share your concerns.

You will be supported by your counsellor who will care for you and endeavour to understand your experience whilst offering support along the way as you change and grow. The journey can be difficult and sometimes may be distressing as you could be visiting things which have been locked away and not dealt with fully. Many people who enter into counselling find it to be a life changing experience. The process of counselling facilitates deep personal insight and increasingly meaningful self acceptance. These qualities are then usually taken into personal and work relationships and are a catalyst for wider change and fulfilment.

Counselling isn’t about being given advice; it is about exploring the issues and together finding a way forward. It is a positive move towards taking responsibility for your wellbeing, tackling your problems and taking control of your situation.

How does counselling work?

There has been a lot of research into what makes counselling successful with a number of different factors identified. The two most important factors are your commitment to the process and the positive relationship that you have with your counsellor.

As counsellors we aim to build a special trusting relationship with you. Where you will be listened to and understood in a way that you may not have experienced before. What you discuss between you and your counsellor is kept confidential, allowing you to explore openly what is going on for you, and work through this together.

Talking about your emotions can be difficult.  This takes place in a safe, secure environment where you are able to express freely how you feel, ‘saying it aloud’ makes it real and also relieves the pressure of carrying your concerns alone.  Sessions last for 50 minutes and will occur weekly and reviewed regularly. For counselling to be successful it is important that you are able to commit to weekly sessions, at least during the early stages. We will work on a one to one basis, with you setting a pace that is comfortable for you.

What is person centred counselling?

‘The counsellor works with you to create a non-judgmental, empathic, therapeutic relationship. and by working together you are able to find a better understanding of your issues, therefore enabling ways forward to be explored.’   BACP 2017

Person centred counselling is a non-direct talking therapy created in the 1940’s by an American psychologist Dr Carl Rogers, which he designed to work upon the belief that we as people are unique individuals in our existence and possess the inner ability to grow as people in our own way given the right conditions.

At the very centre of this approach is the belief that you are the expert on your life and only you are capable of making the right decision for you when it comes to choosing the direction in which you wish to grow

In Person centred counselling, the counsellor works at creating the right environment in which you feel able to look at yourself and develop a greater understanding of your own thoughts, feelings and meanings. The counsellor is not there to analyse you or give you advice, but instead will be along side you, supporting and helping you to explore your own issues, with the belief that you will come to find your own ‘answers’.

We are not there to judge or tell you what to do, simply to be warm, accepting and honest with you, while working to understand what it means to be you in your world.